When it comes to books on marriage there are definately a ton of resources available to couples today. But every once in a while you stumble across a book that makes you stop and think and may even change your paradigm a bit. One of those books for me was Sacred Marriage by Gary Thomas.

In this book, Gary attempts to set a good biblical view of marriage that is different from what we have traditionally fallen into. Instead of seeing marriage as a second class spiritual state because you weren't holy enough to remain celebate or categorizing marriage into the realm of relationships, Gary proposes that marriage could be one of the most effective places for spiritual growth to take place. His premise is this "what if God designed marriage not to make us happy, but to make us holy?"





Think about that for a minute. We focus so much on our happiness when it comes to our marriage that we soon start to feel entitled to more and we begin to see our spouse as someone who drags us down instead of helping us to grow. Imagine for a minute what would happen in your marriage if you chose to allow your spouse to speak into your life and if you began to see your marriage as the best place for your character to be shaped like Christs'. What do you think it would do for your own spiritual growth? What about the growth of your marriage?

If you are looking for a good book to read, pick this one up. It is deep but well worth the read. Also, Gary did a video study for us at Saddleback on this book that you could pick up on the patio if you want to do it in your group.